Opposites attract.

Whoever came up with the saying “opposites attract” clearly wasn’t with the person long enough to really get a feel for who they really are. The basic foundations of any relationship will absolutely crumble to dust if there are too many differences. The initial attraction may be there, but in the end the same reason the two people were attracted to each other in the first place will be the same reason why they push apart. Never hide who you really are. I’m not saying that you need to find a clone. We choose friends who are like us because of the similar thinking and interests. We don’t normally look for people exactly like us when we are looking for a mate, most of the times it’s looking for the part of yourself that you’ve always needed and wanted. This works for the most part, but in the end just try and find happiness in whatever form it may be in. It may take a few tries to really realize what it is exactly that you are looking for. When you find it, make sure you don’t let it go.

The same goes for the saying “money isn’t everything”. Well have you ever tried living without it? We are forced as humans living how and where we do to rely on money to some degree. Why is it that relatives always fight over money or belongings of a person who has passed away? Is it because they want a part of that person or is it more along the lines of human greed. If nothing was setup like a will when someone passes away there are always scavengers looking to get whatever they can. Families break up over deaths but not because the person is gone, more because the fighting that starts over the deceased person’s belongings. People are killed every day over minimal amounts of money. Is it really easier to live without it? Desperate people do desperate things as the saying goes.

Love isn’t everything either and it can be a very harsh and cold existence out there without it. Whoever came up with the saying “follow your heart” has never had it broken before. It can be one of the most disgusting feelings in the entire world. Those dark and empty feelings that eat away at your soul don’t normally just go away. Repeated heartache will in the end kill you due to the depression that comes along with it. The best way to deal with it is not to embrace the cold, but rather look for the light. Try not to dwell on the pain. Try instead to filter out the pain by doing something else and putting your head someplace else for a little while. It’s not something you should do for a long time, but rather something that should help deal with the short term chaos. The faster you get the pain out of your head, the faster you should heal. Why is it that people put up with abuse? Is it because they’ve come to learn to accept it? There is so much better out there for many people who will never know because they feel like they are trapped. You are only trapped in your head. There is always a way out one way or another.

Memories.

Since we only have one shot at life to get it right, you should always be true to everyone around you. It may come down to the fact that they don’t like what you are telling them, but the fact is they can respect you because it’s truth. If you have been hurt by someone or something in the past, take solace in the fact they they will be paid back one way or another. It is good to forgive someone for their past mistakes, but never forget. Don’t ever allow yourself to be bitten by the same snake twice. Life isn’t about what you have, who you know or what you’ve done. It’s about memories. Memories of yours and memories others have of you. Good and bad. If right now in your life you feel like this isn’t how you want to be remembered. Perhaps it’s time to change something. Start with the little things and work your way up to who you really want to be and who you really want to be remembered as. Some of the greatest people who have ever lived never truly realized how great they were. It was after their deaths that their lives were celebrated. These are the same people we can reflect back on for their innovation and foresight. If it wasn’t for the courage of your ancestors and family, you would not exist.

Make someone smile for having the privilege of knowing you. Do something for someone that no one else could ever or would ever do. Stand up for people less fortunate than yourself. Try to touch the people that truly matter most even when they don’t need it. Don’t hold all the things that happen to you in life against yourself or anyone else. Move on because the past will always stay in the past. Be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone else. Be the best person you can be in this lifetime. Act the way you want to be remembered and not how you are told to act. Believe in yourself even when no one else does. That’s the type of courage people are remembered for.

Question yourself.

There are a certain set of rules that you should generally accept in this life such as the way you are forced live and the guidelines set by society which is law.  Things that you cannot change.  There are also many rules that you should question and have the courage to change. Since the time we are small we are taught to not question our parents or other authority figures. This in turn is contributing to the devolution of us as a civilization. Instead of people questioning why things are and trying to come up with answers for better ways of doing things, they simply accept. They accept the set of rules set forth by someone who was being paid to make up those rules. Some of the greatest inventions and ideas in the world were thought of by normal people. People who didn’t accept things for the way they were. People who questioned themselves and everyone else.

There will be times when you think there is no way out, no place to turn, and no easy answer. The answers are always easy. Actually doing what needs to be done is what the problem is. If you want to be somewhere in life, it’s you that will get you there. Do not rely on other people. Use yourself. It’s the reason you’re here. Give up everything that you don’t need in order to bring everything that you do need closer. Question yourself and you will find the answers.  Use your brain to find the right answers and your heart to choose between them.

The pursuit of truth.

One day perhaps you will be lucky to find the one you were meant to be with. Your soul mate. Your everything. The person who you would without question give your life for if you had to. The Yin to your Yang. If it feels right, it just might be and if it still feels right after a few months of knowing someone, it probably is. Some say good relationships are built upon trust and compromise. Trust should never be an issue, it should always be there. If there is a need to compromise it should be worked out in a few seconds, a few sentences, but never huge fights. Some fights for a relationship may be healthy but fighting all the time is not. There are chaos seekers and hope slayers out there. Avoid them. If someone wants to throw you in the middle of a pack of dogs just to find out how you handle it, get out! There are people out there who want to break your spirit. Ones who want to mold you into whatever type of being they want you to be. These are the same ones that will lie, cheat, and steal from you. These are the ones that once they get you to where they want you, will use you over and over again and will manipulate as much as they can.

Calling one of these people out could be pretty catastrophic depending on how long you’ve been together. If someone says they want your help to change, make sure they are taking all the steps themselves and you are just there for support. Never try to help someone who isn’t taking the initiative to better their own life. It will only drag you down. If you spin your wheels when you’re stuck in the mud, two things happen. One you get no where and two you dig yourself a hole. Once you’re stuck in their hole that they helped you dig, sometimes it can be pretty difficult to climb out of.

Stand up for what you believe in. Stand up for what is right. Stand up for yourself. If you don’t lie you never have to remember anything. They say “The truth shall set you free!”, it works to a certain extent, but lies will definitely bury you and hurt you in the long run. Be honest to yourself and everyone you ever come in contact with. Don’t live a life in pursuit of the truth. Remain steadfast with unwavering confidence in the truth and everything will work out for you.

Chasing away the darkness.

There may come a day when you wake up and actually feel sorry for all the things you have done in the past. The people you’ve hurt. The problems you’ve created. The pain you’ve inflicted. When that time comes keep your head up above the waves of tears that will come rolling in and keep yourself from drowning. Don’t turn to drugs. Don’t turn to being oppressive. Don’t get cocky and pretend you don’t need anything from anyone. Realize what you’ve done and ask for forgiveness. If it isn’t true it won’t matter and it will not help you one bit.

I feel it’s true when they say that you will get what you deserve and what goes around comes around. I would have to say I am a firm believer in the instant-karma mentality. If I do something stupid I expect to get paid back in some sort of shape or form. If you do bad things to your family, your friends, or even complete strangers, expect all that to come back to you. It might not be now, it might not be ten years from now, but it is coming and you have the luxury of living with the fear that it will come back to bite you. Life isn’t about what you can get out of other people. It’s about what you can get out of yourself. Do you want to be remembered as a scumbag or would you rather be remembered as someone who would do anything for anyone. Someone who others could always turn to in their darkest hour and there you would be shining like a beacon of light to chase away the darkness. There are no answers in the darkness. Sometimes you don’t need to look far to find a knight in shining armor, just beware of the ones wrapped in aluminum foil.